Stop the glorification of busy.
In the days where playing the game of volleying one-ups of who's day was more jam packed, who has more on their plate, and who accomplished the greatest amount of rhetoric in a 24 hour period is an art form, we partake in seemingly casual conversations with the eye roll and hand flip of, "oh you wouldn't believe how much I have to do today! My life is just insane!" I've taken a new approach in the last year to look at things differently and reevaluated that exact mindset. In doing so, I've also decided to try and be more transparent as an individual and an artist. I tend to be a pretty open person, ask me anything and I'll answer, but I tend to keep my true personal life and vulnerabilities wrapped up very tightly. Very, very tightly. Going through a major growth period personally this last year has certainly had its ups and downs, but one of the biggest things I've learned is to stop the glorification of busy. It's an idea I have preached for a while now, but I'm finally actually creating the habits to make it happen.
As a business owner, it's exceptionally difficult. We work long hours, all hours, all days, holidays are merely regular days with more letters in front of them, all social media outlets, all phones, computers, emails, and snail mail. Everything is work. We check our email as soon as our eyes open in the morning, we spend hours upon hours on Instagram and call it "work," create lists of 20+ hashtags to tag our every post on EVERYTHING and if trolling pinterest was a paid position, we'd be millionaires. Most of this we do at the cost of our personal lives, relationships and our the growth of our own character, and frankly, sometimes our growth in our own professions suffers as well. Our work defines who we are, and gives us our worth, and it creates a vacuum like absence of others in our lives to be able to fulfill those very roles.
And to that, I say, "no more."
Being busy is good, having business is good, making money is good but sacrificing everything in our lives that is tangibly right in front of us is not. We are so eager to be "busy" that we loose touch of the lives we are living and the people we are sharing it with.
In the coming weeks, I'm going to document the steps I have personally taken to (attempt/begin/try) to achieve this. Not only am I doing this in hopes to help others, but as a way to keep myself accountable, as well as being more transparent, which I'm absolutely terrible at. It will jump around a bit, from the development of bad habits, to allowing social media to define our success and happiness, to living an unbalanced and unfulfilled life and not even realizing it. There will be bits and pieces about my own struggles, the process in which I work, why I do what I do, and the most frequently asked question, "Where did Moira come from?"
My disclaimer is that I don't have all the answers, but I have some trial and errors, some faults and some failures that I am willing to share.